Hi everyone! It has been a while (I’ve been AWOL for 3 months and will explain why later), so I’d like to cut straight to the chase and talk about this oh-so-cliche but incredibly important topic: Being true to yourself.
I know: “Why Molly? Why must you bring this up?”
Because in today’s society it is to easy to lose yourself. It is SO easy to get caught up in the rat race, to think the hamster wheel is more important to be than beside ourselves. It is just too darn easy to fall into the traps.
The traps are emails sending you sales, convincing you you need that skirt or shoe to feel good. The traps are thinking you need a certain degree to get a certain job to finally be happy. The traps are dumbing down your individuality because society values synchronicity.
It is totally and completely wrong.
Here is the bitter truth: We are all here for a brief moment of life, awakened from an abyss of the unknown. Don’t you want to say you lived the life of your dreams? A life you filled every square inch of with your essence? I know I do. And it took me waking up to the rat race everyday to figure out the race is not where I need to be. Your true self, getting to know your inner core, is not something society or your loved ones will intentionally help you build. It is solely an internal job.
And so guys, I’ve been AWOL because I’ve been doing some deep soul work to get in touch with my innermost self. My last video was on me starting a new job and having to give up time to it, so my posting has really declined since then until I briefly flatlined. I devoted so much time and energy to this job for all these months only to find that I haven’t been true to myself in many aspects. I’m standing at a crossroad, and I’m solely relying on that innermost voice to guide me, and it has taken a lot of energy to figure it all out.
I finally arrived at a good place and I know what it is I want to do. But the key point is how I arrived to this plane of peace with myself.
Here are a few things I learned along the way to being true to myself:
1. Set the intention. You can’t find your innermost self without setting aside the time and effort to accomplish it. Internal dialogue takes a lot of work and patience. So make the time, make the effort, set it all aside at least 5 minutes each day to ask yourself at least 1 deep question.
That is a decent one to start with! I will answer that question with a list of questions.
- What makes you truly happy (as in completely filled with every single good emotion you’re capable of: gratitude, joy, humor. Many people confuse amusement with happiness).
- When was the last time you were truly happy?
- Is this (insert job, paycheck, reputation, etc. here) worth the next 20 years of your life?
- What can you do right now with where you’re at and have to start your journey?
- What is God in your own perspective?
- If you had to be completely honest right now with yourself about whatever you wanted WITHOUT facing judgement or repercussions, what would you say?
2. How fast has time passed since you graduated high school? College? Met so-and-so? Time has flown right? That is what time does. It escapes. Drains away exactly as the sand does in an hourglass. So don’t postpone getting to know your inner core because before you know it, life will have passed already and you missed out on your only chance to know and be your glorious self.
3. Embrace your self-realizations, no matter how harsh, insulting, unexpected, embarrassing they are. For example, it took me a long time to admit to myself that I don’t ever want children. I felt a lot of resistance, fear. It is almost taboo and an expectation in society. But honestly, to heck with that. I am who I am and my life is my own.
4. No more lies to yourself. You can’t continue making these crap lies up to yourself and overselling who you really are to the world. If you work in IT and you hate IT, admit it, make a plan, move on. Don’t lie to yourself anymore thinking you may actually like it one day when all you’ve accomplished up to this point is basic slavery. No more lies. No more complications. Be honest and genuinely sell yourself to the world. Don’t oversell qualities that aren’t there.
5. Wear your armor. You are in a battle for your life (with yourself!) which makes this whole thing extra sensitive to deal with. Strengthen yourself against exterior negativity, develop your backbone, maintain your self-esteem intact. Hold the battlefield steady. Keep going.
This journey to know yourself is truly hard. I won’t even try to sugar coat it. It has been one of the hardest moments I’ve ever had in my life. The fear us enormous and stuns you from taking action. But they key is to never quit. Through persistence, you will succeed at anything you try. This is no different. So, until next time guys, take care. 🙂
“All the knowledge I possess everyone else can acquire, but my heart is all my own.”
Johann von Goethe