Being true to yourself

Hi everyone! It has been a while (I’ve been AWOL for 3 months and will explain why later), so I’d like to cut straight to the chase and talk about this oh-so-cliche but incredibly important topic: Being true to yourself.

I know: “Why Molly? Why must you bring this up?”

Because in today’s society it is to easy to lose yourself. It is SO easy to get caught up in the rat race, to think the hamster wheel is more important to be than beside ourselves. It is just too darn easy to fall into the traps.

The traps are emails sending you sales, convincing you you need that skirt or shoe to feel good. The traps are thinking you need a certain degree to get a certain job to finally be happy. The traps are dumbing down your individuality because society values synchronicity.

It is totally and completely wrong.

Here is the bitter truth: We are all here for a brief moment of life, awakened from an abyss of the unknown. Don’t you want to say you lived the life of your dreams? A life you filled every square inch of with your essence? I know I do. And it took me waking up to the rat race everyday to figure out the race is not where I need to be. Your true self, getting to know your inner core, is not something society or your loved ones will intentionally help you build. It is solely an internal job.

And so guys, I’ve been AWOL because I’ve been doing some deep soul work to get in touch with my innermost self. My last video was on me starting a new job and having to give up time to it, so my posting has really declined since then until I briefly flatlined. I devoted so much time and energy to this job for all these months only to find that I haven’t been true to myself in many aspects. I’m standing at a crossroad, and I’m solely relying on that innermost voice to guide me, and it has taken a lot of energy to figure it all out.

I finally arrived at a good place and I know what it is I want to do. But the key point is how I arrived to this plane of peace with myself.

Here are a few things I learned along the way to being true to myself:

1. Set the intention. You can’t find your innermost self without setting aside the time and effort to accomplish it. Internal dialogue takes a lot of work and patience. So make the time, make the effort, set it all aside at least 5 minutes each day to ask yourself at least 1 deep question.

Which questions?

That is a decent one to start with! I will answer that question with a list of questions.

  • What makes you truly happy (as in completely filled with every single good emotion you’re capable of: gratitude, joy, humor. Many people confuse amusement with happiness).
  • When was the last time you were truly happy?
  • Is this (insert job, paycheck, reputation, etc. here) worth the next 20 years of your life?
  • What can you do right now with where you’re at and have to start your journey?
  • What is God in your own perspective?
  • If you had to be completely honest right now with yourself about whatever you wanted WITHOUT facing judgement or repercussions, what would you say?

2. How fast has time passed since you graduated high school? College? Met so-and-so? Time has flown right? That is what time does. It escapes. Drains away exactly as the sand does in an hourglass. So don’t postpone getting to know your inner core because before you know it, life will have passed already and you missed out on your only chance to know and be your glorious self.

3. Embrace your self-realizations, no matter how harsh, insulting, unexpected, embarrassing they are. For example, it took me a long time to admit to myself that I don’t ever want children. I felt a lot of resistance, fear. It is almost taboo and an expectation in society. But honestly, to heck with that. I am who I am and my life is my own.

4. No more lies to yourself. You can’t continue making these crap lies up to yourself and overselling who you really are to the world. If you work in IT and you hate IT, admit it, make a plan, move on. Don’t lie to yourself anymore thinking you may actually like it one day when all you’ve accomplished up to this point is basic slavery. No more lies. No more complications. Be honest and genuinely sell yourself to the world. Don’t oversell qualities that aren’t there.

5. Wear your armor. You are in a battle for your life (with yourself!) which makes this whole thing extra sensitive to deal with. Strengthen yourself against exterior negativity, develop your backbone, maintain your self-esteem intact. Hold the battlefield steady. Keep going.

This journey to know yourself is truly hard. I won’t even try to sugar coat it. It has been one of the hardest moments I’ve ever had in my life. The fear us enormous and stuns you from taking action. But they key is to never quit. Through persistence, you will succeed at anything you try. This is no different. So, until next time guys, take care. 🙂

xx Molly

 

“All the knowledge I possess everyone else can acquire, but my heart is all my own.”
Johann von Goethe

Work hard now for a better future

Hi guys! Welcome back to The Bodhi Archives!

I apologize for my erratic posting schedule…. It will become regular soon! I am still in the middle of starting out this new era in my life and a new job, which takes away a lot of my time and energy.

Although I love it, I found myself wondering the other day about how hard these past few weeks have been. I mean, I’ve been literally working 12+ hours every day, barely any time off, I’m sleep deprived, etc. You know, one of those periods in life where everything seems to be taking the hard route. BUT I immediately stopped myself. Honestly, what ELSE would I be doing with my youth, if not securing my career and making a better future for myself?

This goes out to those of you adolescents starting out life: Either you work hard now and play later or you play now and work hard later. USUALLY, you don’t get to have your cake and eat it too, which is play now and play later. Time is more valuable than anything: Make it worth something. Get something out of it. Work hard, spend your time doing things that will benefit you and your loved ones, spend time securing your future. THAT is my advice to you.

So yeah, working hard, as I am doing now, it is rough on you. But it is worth it. Ultimately, you may regret slacking off and not doing what you’re supposed to do, but you will NEVER regret working hard and giving it your all.

For those in a hard time in life right now, whether it be getting a new degree and balancing a job, raising a child, starting your careers, securing a house, WHATEVER the case may be, it will be WORTH IT. Working hard will be WORTH IT. You can never regret giving your best.

The drawings I made during these videos were part of an exercise program I’m following to improve my skills. I drew my hand and a self portrait from a mirror. I was not aiming to make a masterpiece! These videos are meant for you to grow with me as I practice my art skills and I express quick thoughts I have while making them. I thank you all for coming along on the journey with me 🙂

Another video next week! 🙂

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All my love,

Molly

Starting something new/ Starting a new life stage

Hey guys! This week I am simply writing an article related to what I have been experiencing in my current life situation: The start of a new life stage. If you are the kind of person who hates change, this article may just help you.

First, I must say that this is a powerful time, and it brings with it an obvious aura: One of rebirth, renewal. You still are you, but the air circling through your life now carries a new weight and it feels as though it carries you with it. That is how I know I’ve entered a new period in my life. This is how I feel right now.

I have started a new job and it feels tremendous, although scary as well. I have fallen in love with what I do despite there being so much to learn and so many personalities to meet. But I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way.

I live for change. Static bores me. I am constantly uprooting and trying out new things and bringing new air into my life to breath.

There are many people who do not feel the same way. They may not like change or react positively to it. I know several people like that.  But with this post and in my telling you my experience, I hope you consider bringing some new air into your life.

Life is ABOUT change.  Life is fueled by change. Therefore, it makes sure that nothing lasts forever, nothing stays the same. Whether you realize it or not, the life circumstances that you’re so comfortable with now do indeed undergo subtle change. Remember how it was when you first started under these circumstances; Doesn’t it feel different now? The time aren’t exactly the same, that’s for sure.

Knowing that life will always and forever enforce upon you its own changes (whether it turn out in your favor or not), does it not make sense to begin choosing which changes you want in your life? What new circumstances you want to welcome and experience?

This is not a blog meant to change your mind: You are who you are. It is meant to help empower you to bring the best to yourself. If life is going to change constantly anyways, why not strive to get the change you wish you could experience?

Starting a new life stage has been invigorating. Hard, unnerving, and scary at times, but oh so worth it. And the good news is, it will change again and again, so it wouldn’t even matter if I disliked my current stage. You, like I, will always have a choice. 

Go for it. Start something new. I can guarantee that although it may be had, and scary, it will help you grow. 

Let’s talk life over art! Acceptance/ DaVinci practice in 4k timelapse

Let’s talk life over art! Acceptance/ Master DaVinci drawing practice in 4k timelapse

Hey guys! Welcome back! In this video, I talk about acceptance whilst I put my drawing skills to the test on a practice drawing originally by Leonardo DaVinci.

It has been quite an eventful 2 weeks! But despite being pleased with where I am right now in life, I was finding my core to still have some resistance. After some soul-searching, I have learned that I still haven’t accepted some things, like events and circumstances I had to go through to get to where I am today. It’s weird and unfortunate that pain works that way: It’s not so easy to get rid of.

I don’t have a grand solution for this as I am still working on it, BUT the good news is, some factors do come into play. The older you get, the easier acceptance comes. After getting pushed round so much, you kinda just learn to take life as it comes and leave the rest behind. This is fortunately a skill that should come to everyone with time 🙂 Another factor may be your personality: If you are easy-going you may benefit from having acceptance come to you easier. I only recognize these from experience and observation, but does it make them any less helpful?

In the end guys, what I do to calm my resistance and have acceptance come to me is to stay conscious with it. I attribute any ounce of my hesitations and resistance to my inability to accept what is. Recognizing this, I put it in its place: meditations, affirmations, talking to myself in the mirror, WHATEVER it takes.

I’m still struggling with this, but if I weren’t I wouldn’t be human! We ALL struggle or have struggled from acceptance issues. If you have any advice on how to achieve acceptance, comment below! Would love to hear from you!

I have missed you all!! Only a short time before I’m back to the routine 🙂 Love you guys! Take care 🙂

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All my love,
Molly

 

Structuring your time for success/ Channel update

Hi guys! This video talks about how I am in the process of restructuring my life to give time to important things and how sometimes to be successful, that entails borrowing time from other areas of your life to make that happen.

There is not enough time in the day to do it ALL. You need to divide your time between things that matter the most and to be honest that division won’t always be equal. Different things take importance at different times. What is important now won’t always be the most important at all times (unless it is your family or health). It is a delicate game of balance and poise when it comes to priorities.

That being said I am on the brink of starting a very BIG career opportunity that will challenge me mentally and professionally. And given the nature of my job, as I am in the medical field in a position of high autonomy, I can definitely kill someone if I don’t get my stuff down right and packed. SO, because I will be devoted heavily to that for the next couple of months, I am going to be posting new videos every other Thursday.

I know… I would miss me too 😛 jk

But I will be back to posting weekly once this is all over, maybe in about 2 months.

As well, I am going to be making a lot more “Let’s talk life over art!” videos because I get to do the 2 things I ADORE! I will still be making montages and regular videos occasionally, BUUUTTT I think the art time-lapse may become a central focus to the channel. Let me know what you think about that! I like the idea because you guys get to grow with me as well, seeing my skills as an artist improve and perhaps this will serve as even greater motivation to do what you love too. 🙂

As always, you guys can comment, message me, email me, errythaanngg if you want some advice on a subject or want an upcoming video to be on that subject!

Love ya’ll and thanks for growing with me 🙂

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Molly

Social anxiety with art time lapse: Let’s talk life over art! in 2.7k

Hey guys! This is Molly and welcome to The Bodhi Archives!
During the course of this drawing, I found myself thinking about social anxiety. It is a problem, and a more common problem than we believe it to be.

Social anxiety, in my description, is a shame, self-doubt or embarrassment towards yourself in social situations. You know that feeling of not wanting to be called on in class, approached by others or feel forced when you have small-talk with other people? These are all manifestations of social anxiety.

Today’s society doesn’t make it any better either. Compared to the “good old days” when it was easy to go under the radar, now we are insta-connected to every single person in our social circle at all times, making it hard to escape the social pressure. We are constantly exposed to other people’s business and images of the ways our lives should look like and all these comparisons, causing a rift in our self esteem and identity. We get buried in it all.

A way to make this bearable is to take the time to develop your sense of self. Take the time to stop yourself from deriving your identity from what you see and start deriving it from how you FEEL when your alone. It may seem counterintuitive, I know: Improve your social anxiety by regressing into solitude and getting to know yourself. BUT as most of our problems are, this is an internal one, and must be fixed internally. Encase your core in a shield so strong, that none of these social pressures can penetrate it.

While many people may experience severe social anxiety on a level that requires intensive treatment, this tip will hopefully help you survive until that next social gathering comes up and hopefully well after that 🙂

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Molly

Pessimism and Optimism: Let’s Talk Life Over Art! in 2.7k

Hey guys!

Welcome to The Bodhi Archives, and this is the first of a series I call “Let’s Talk Life Over Art!” where I will practice my drawing skills on various subjects and let you see them in time lapse. (I am not DaVinci and this is not meant to be a drawing tutorial, but I love drawing so here it goes!) When I draw, my mind goes off onto these grand ideas and adventures, which I will also be talking about as you watch!

The picture I draw and the words I say won’t always be related, but it is more about what the drawing instills in me that I will talk about.

I LOVE both art and self-help so this is something I’m REALLLYYY excited about. It’s fun for me, so I hope it’s fun for you and you enjoy!

This week I talk very briefly about choosing your attitude relating to the “glass half empty, half full” philosophy. For the longest time I thought I was a pessimist, until I realized that there is no such thing pre-defined within us. You always have a choice in attitude. You must choose your attitude everyday the same way you choose your clothes. This is totally empowering and also very important to realize.

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Molly